The Haggin Hall residents in room 124 can be described in two simple words: too much.|
After spending nearly two hours this August with these boys at Chipotle chatting,
laughing, and diving deep into their home lives and the way their friendship has evolved,
they told me they had been tallying the number of times I told them they were too much.
These boys are the most genuine and hilarious residents I have met in my time as a
resident advisor, and it's only August.
I believe context is important, so I would like to share a little about the relationship these
residents share. Their rooming together was no accident, but their meeting was the most
unlikely coincidence. These sweet boys, Trey and Ryder, have been pals for years. They
met when their parents dated when they were young, hated each other for a brief time,
grew close, lived in the same home as brothers, and have remained best friends ever
They are inseparable, being seen together every time they enter and leave the building.
These boys bring light and energy to our floor meetings and programs, once showing up
in a Power Rangers costume and a banana costume simply because they knew it would
make others smile. Their silly antics range from crazy costumes to crazy stories to plain
goofiness. They frequently like to pretend to be each other to test how well you pay
attention to them as individuals rather than clumping them together. I cannot begin to
count the number of times Ryder introduces himself as Trey and vice versa. These boys
thrive on fun and personal relationships with others.
Trey and Ryder are currently working with me to lead an activity at our next floor meeting
to boost resident involvement and get the residents excited about our meetings. They
have asked questions about how they can get involved. They seek out resources and
opportunities to help people on the floor. These first year students truly embody what it
means to be members of a residential community.
In addition to this, Trey and Ryder spent the month of August going out of their way to
make others feel welcome and included despite their pre-existing close bond and
constantly sought to bring other people into their brotherhood. These boys always stop
to say hello no matter the day or time, and they work hard to excel not only socially but
During the month of August, in the few weeks they have been here, I have built a
relationship with Ryder and Trey that is so based on vulnerability and honesty it is hard
to believe I've known them for such a short period of time. I feel like I really know these
But these boys are not content with simply me knowing them. Trey and Ryder have
sought to know me and my background too. They ask questions and want to understand
different experiences and perspectives. We relate on so many experiences, and this
makes our relationship stronger. I feel that they aren't just residents who chat in passing,
they are residents that want to know more.
In case you were wondering, that tally from Chipotle was 10. Ten times in 2 hours I told
them they were too much. Too much to handle, but just enough to bring joy and
positivity to our hall this August. I can't think of anyone more deserving of this award
than my sweet Power Ranger and Banana Boy.
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